Symbolic Wedding Ceremony – A Complete Script Guide

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A symbolic wedding ceremony script guide is an informal personal narrative that allows you to share your celebration of love with family and friends. The series of events tells your history in great detail. So, who do you appoint as your wedding speaker?

And should the spokesperson you designate be qualified? Can your advocate facilitate the non-religious ceremony and be the perfect speaker? Does the speech-maker need any formal training as an interim marriage council official? Well, this symbolic wedding script guide is ideal for the beginner, intermediate or experienced public speaker.

Basically, from your love story, to the vows, to exchanging rings, and the first kiss. As the bridal couple you can appoint anyone: your parents’ in-law, grandma, grandpa, siblings, or your best mate to lead the symbolic wedding ceremony. These prime candidates have the gift, and an edge on the job. So, use these key steps and start planning a symbolic wedding now…


What do you have to do first before choosing someone to lead your non-religious wedding?

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The wedding ceremony speech follows a basic structure and speakers adapt the meaningful content, tools and resources with intentional moments. Given the sensitive nature of the script e. g. race or ethnicity, sexual orientation, religion and moral values. It echos each couples core beliefs. Photo credit: Felicia & James – RJ

Sort out the the legal paperwork

First of all, you must give one calendar month official notice to the municipality or town hall that you wish to marry. On top of that, you may have to give them your preferred symbolic wedding date too. And inform the council official you would like to appoint a friend or designate temporary celebrant for one day.

Get your official documents checked

Secondly, as you know, you will need evidence of date and place of birth from official sources (eg. Birth Certificate, Passport). And if this is your second or third marriage, you must provide proof of dissolution from an official source, [divorce papers]. Plus you give free and informed consent to be wed.

Training temporary marriage celebrant

Thirdly, your symbolic celebrant is sworn in and authorised to marry you for one day only [Holland]. And the person requires no previous training or experience in creating and conducting ceremonies. Even better, the marriage ceremony can be conducted any time, at any place and anywhere you choose. You reveal what is important to you.

Arrange civil marriage celebrant attendee (optional)

Look I don’t wish to burst your bubble. But the downside of having your own family or friend carry out your legal marriage service is that an official civil marriage celebrant must be present. This is to ensure your symbolic marriage is legally binding, in accordance with marriage  law.

Fees – official civil marriage celebrant

Notably authorised marriage council official require a fee to ensure the symbolic ceremony is performed in a dignified fashion. Alongside wedding vows, the signature and witnesses signing of the certificate this legalises your marriage. The costs guarantee that you are married. Thus, your celebrant or friend can deliver the fun part of the nuptials without legal liabilities.


Who should choose as your temporary celebrant for the one day?

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A symbolic wedding is a non-religious blessing service, and takes place before or after your civil marriage ceremony. It echoes your strong personal beliefs, traditions, and future hopes. It shows how much you are committed to one another. – Photo courtesy: Brano Haduk

Symbolic wedding ceremony speech – master of ceremonies

With originality you create moments that capture emotions during a traditional marriage ceremony with a symbolic modern twist. In fact, a master of ceremonies can portray your love story, true emotions and intentions with ease. And, if you envision a symbolic ceremony that’s similar to white wedding the MC will deliver and convey it the way you like it.

Symbolic wedding ceremony script – officiant for the day

So, if you want a casual and relaxed ceremony, you can assign your own wedding authority. Appoint a family member, best friend or someone who “gets you”.  And as your marriage officiant for the day, they facilitate your vision of the perfect nuptials. Moreover, you have the person you want to preside over the dream wedding you desire.

symbolic ceremony wedding man making a speech and guests laughing

In fact, a speech is everything a couple needs to carry out a ceremonial marriage blessing with ease. Andy’s Best Man Speech:  Andy’s best man’s speech had us laughing out of our chairs. He killed it with his calm, confident and always considerate manner.

Interfaith Minister’s symbolic ceremony

Additionally you can endorse your vows in a beautiful church setting. An accredited minister honors your cultural and ethnic backgrounds as an interfaith [marriage] authority.  For more information about crafting a secular marriage and symbolic wedding ceremony to reflect your personal faiths and beliefs.

Celebrancy symbolic ceremony

Furthermore, the celebrancy movement facilitates a certified celebrant to officiate your non-religious marriage ceremony. Creating the right narrative that strikes the right balance between sincerity and humor is a celebrant style wedding. And the relaxed ceremony gives you the ability and  freedom to sign a symbolic contract of marriage.

wedding speech bride making a speech to the groom

Virtual, minimony or symbolic wedding ceremony – which one suits you? Whatever you choose, your officiant for the day will describe your values and recite your love back to you.

image Ryan Polei

Wedding ceremony humanist

Similarly, a humanist wedding is officiated by a celebrant. The person can marry you where you want And when you want and how you want anywhere in the world. Humanists’ celebrants focus on humanism and the loving relationship of two human beings. Another thing, the symbolic blessing incorporates non-religious readings, your favorite music, and  tokens of love.

Symbolic wedding ceremony script celebrant

And there’s more….a symbolic officiant = wedding celebrant ceremony mirrors a civil marriage union. It contains no religious content. In fact, you compose your own non-binding marriage script. Or you can hire a celebrant to write a speech for your appointed officiant for the day [family member or friend]. But, if you have no time, energy or money to do that. Use my symbolic wedding ceremony script below.

humanist wedding bride and groom walk down aisle as witnesses look on

As a remembrance of the day. Image Ryan G Smith



Marriage blessing speech for the “officiant of the day” eyes only


Welcome, family, friends and loved ones. We are gathered here today, surrounded by the beauty of creation and nurtured by the sights and sounds of nature to celebrate the wedding of _____ and _____.

You have come here from near and from far away to share in this commitment now they make to one another, to offer your love and support to their union, and to allow ______ and ______ to start their married life together surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.
_____ and _____ thank you for your presence here today.

Officiant’s opening remarks

They ask for your blessing, encouragement and lifelong support, for their marriage and life shared together. They also remember other loved ones who cannot be here to share this moment.

_____ and ____, marriage is the promise between two people who love each other, who trust that love, who honor one another as individuals in that togetherness, and who wish to spend the rest of their lives together. It enables the two separate souls to share their desires, longings, dreams, and memories, their joys and sorrows, and to help each other through all uncertainties of life.

Officiant’s charge to the couple – meaning of marriage

A strong marriage also nurtures each of you as separate individuals and allows you to maintain your unique identity and grow in your own way through the years ahead. It is a safe haven for each of you to become your best self.

You are adding to your life not only the affection of each other but also the companionship and blessing of deep trust. You are agreeing to share strength, responsibilities, and love. It takes more than love to make this relationship work.

And it takes trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other. It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And it takes faith, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both.

Guest speaker – readings

Non religious readings and poetry for a ceremonial marriage ceremony is commonplace. You may like to ask your friend or family member to give a reading or recite a poem. This is the perfect space to slot in a beautiful saying or quote about love.

Declaration of intent & exchanging of symbolic ceremony vows

_________ and _________, please join hands, look at one another now and remember this moment in time.

Officiant: Groom, do you take Bride to be your wife? I do.
Officiant: Bride, do you take the Groom to be your husband? I do.
Officiant: _____, please take _____’s hand and repeat after me.
________, I take you as you are/ loving who you are / I promise from this day forward/ To be grateful for our love and our life/ To be generous with my time, my energy and my affection/ To be patient with you and with myself/ To fill our life with adventure and our home with laughter/ To inspire you to grow as an individual / To love you completely/ These things I pledge to you

Declaration of intent & symbolic ceremony vows II

Officiant: _____, please take _____’s hand and repeat after me.
_____, I take you as you are,/ loving who you are/ I promise from this day forward/ To be grateful for our love and our life/ To be generous with my time, my energy and my affection/ To be patient with you and with myself/ To fill our life with adventure and our home with laughter/ To encourage you to grow as an individual / To love you completely/ These things I pledge to you

Exchanging Of Rings

Officiant: Please present the rings
Your wedding ring is a symbol of your promise to one another. The ring, an unbroken, never-ending circle, is a symbol of committed, unending love.
_____, as you place this ring on Bride‘s finger, repeat these words after me:
This ring symbolizes my love for you/ and the commitments we made today
_____, as you place this ring on Groom‘s finger, repeat these words after me:
This ring symbolizes my love for you/ and the commitments we made today

The Kiss & Pronouncement of marriage

______ and _____, you have come here today of your own free will and in the presence of family and friends, have declared your love and commitment to each other. You have given and received a ring as a symbol of your promises.

By the power of your love and commitment to each other, and by the power vested in me, I now pronounce you husband and wife.

You may now share your first kiss as husband and wife.

Closing remarks – conclusion of symbolic wedding ceremony script

Congratulations to you both. It has truly been an honor to be apart of this wedding ceremony. Friends and family, I now present to you the newly married couple!

Symbolic ceremony script courtesy of

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A symbolic wedding ceremony script is like a formal wedding script but more unique, beautiful, and personalised. The informal speech is designed for your friend or family member to carry out your ceremonial marriage blessing.  Boda de Juan & Rosa, Almería

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