Commitment Ceremony: 7 Tips for an Alternative Wedding

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An alternative commitment ceremony is similar to a traditional white wedding but without the trappings of religion. Symbolic ceremonies are on the rise and outstrip church weddings because there are no restrictions. Choosing such an arrangement with your partner gives you plenty of scope.

On top of that it sets you apart from other mature and young couples. And it also means you desire to share your love with family and friends during a joyous celebration. And guess what? You and your partner wish to make your relationship official. So, instead, you’re settling on an alternative wedding ceremony. Perhaps, you feel a spiritual union or a humanist wedding speaks more to your heart and mind.

With a modern day commitment ceremony, you have the freedom of choice. So, make your big day memorable. Find below 7 tips to help you start planning…

Afro-Caribbean wedding  

Photo credit: Krista Guenin: “Typically held during or after a legal marriage service a commitment ceremony gives you the freedom to celebrate your love with family and friends. Source:


1. Deal with the paperwork and the legalities of marriage

To start with whatever you choose, a commitment ceremony is simply your relationship confirmation without registering a civil partnership. And with your non-standard and unconventional wishes you will have the perfect wedding day. So, deal with the paperwork and the legalities of marriage before your big moment. Find out more at your local town hall.

2. Alternative wedding day will not coincide with a major event

As stated by, a promise of commitment ceremony or ritual that symbolises unity “is held to mark the union between two individuals in love. You are not comfortable with the concept of a religious marriage. What’s more you don’t want your alternative wedding day to coincide with yet another major event.

3. Confirm your union of love publicly 

Although an alternative marriage ceremony is similar to a classic wedding. In a word it’s a symbolic, short and sweet unconventional wedding idea whereby you make the rules.  You set the tone and scene. Plus, you choose your own words representative of your relationship. And as marriage is a promise, you even write your personal vows.

4. Let your creativity echo your personal needs 

What’s more exciting than celebrating your love the way you want? And guess what, you can, use creativity to echo your special needs, ideas and music tastes. This is superb if you don’t desire a proclamation of banns. Basically, have your intention to marry read out during a church announcement. And afterwards arrange a commitment ceremony.

5. Grant of approval to hold a real wedding

So, be totally self-indulgent and plan a non-legal or spiritual wedding. Or include your children in the celebration. Like it or not, a small and intimate civil wedding is merely a formal proceeding. And represents the legal status of  your long-standing harmonious connection.

6• Commitment ceremony – design a heartwarming wedding script 

In addition focus on your lifestyle, cultural heritage and personality. In addition, share your hopes, dreams and happiness with loved ones. Hire a celebrant to re-enact the wedding proceedings. Be different. Opt for a close friend to perform as your officiant for the day. Craft your own marriage declaratory and contracting words. Personalize your day and include your unique commitment ceremony script.

7• Swap rings of love and sign a symbolic marriage certificate 

By all means, present one another with a token of your loving union. A traditional wedding ring symbolizes eternity and is a perfect gift. Otherwise, exchange an engraved bracelet or necklace. You can even give another meaningful symbol of your love. Following this you kiss and hug your partner. Next you sign your symbolic marriage certificate. Or maybe a contract of love suits you more. Whichever you prefer, it’s the ultimate pledge of lifelong devotion. Finally, a confirmation and testimony will affirm your solid bond.

two men in colourful red and blue jackets during a commitment ceremony

Non-believers push for legal recognition of humanist weddings Government due to respond to call for non-religious marriages to be enforceable in law, ending need for second, civil ceremony. Source:

Foto met dank aan: Krista Guenin


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