Small Wedding Guest List 2021: 8 Easy Steps To Make It Work!

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Small wedding guest list hierarchy dilemma? If you’re looking to focus on how the ceremony looks you must shorten the seating plan. With the Covid-19 bombshell, the nature of smaller weddings has changed. Planning a wedding is an exciting experience. But, what’s the forecast for your nuptials in 2021?

Well, the stark reality is you may feel optimistic, anxious, or furious about Covid-19 wedding rules. Perhaps your marriage legalities, processes, and paperwork for your civil union are finalised.

However, you’re in a painful limbo about shortening the wedding guest list. So, don’t get worked up but work out a corona “pain” free big day with these easy tips. Here we go.

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“A-List” wedding guests are close family, friends, and special loved ones like your great grandparents. Or you could invite the nanny that looked after you as a child.

“B-list” wedding guests. Well, these are your long-distance relatives and friends who you see once in a blue moon. Perhaps they live abroad and couldn’t make it anyway.

“C-list” wedding guests could be your boss, work colleagues, and the man or woman who cleans your house. You want to make a good impression or thank them for supporting you too.

“D-list” are the lowest on the wedding guest list hierarchy. From your parents’ long-term friends, business associates and neighbours you don’t have to invite them. As well as your ex-boyfriend, the girlfriend of the best man or friend of whoever, it’s not necessary to have them onboard. Unless the above-mentioned persons are forfeiting the bill for your wedding venue.

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Downsized weddings up to 20 guests [in Holland] can go ahead, provided all guests sit at least 1.5 meters apart. Dignita Hoftuin  Amsterdam image credit


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Planning the happiest day of your life should be enjoyable. Inevitably, you must cut your wedding guest list in half.

Of course, you need to downsize or reevaluate it but you don’t want to spoil the fun by disappointing loved ones.

However, heartbreaking it is to cut the list, the virus forces you to make painful concessions.

Regardless of where you’ve set your sights on for your wedding, the A-List of guests must be shortened.

So, delay sending out wedding invitations. Make it shorter now! Do you agree?


You’ve got a million things to do. And with a tough job ahead you must decide who are your bridal party.

Playing the numbers game makes you feel awkward.

And this issue of an A-List of guests ways heavy on your mind.

So, make your life easier and create a smaller wedding due to Covid-19 personal, practical and safety reasons.


How do you narrow your wedding guest list down without tears of frustration?

Notably, organising your nuptials is a logistical nightmare.

On top of that, blending two families into one and pleasing everyone has made your life hell.

It’s a far cry from post covid-19 marriage celebration for 100 to 300 party people.

So, strip back to a micro wedding.

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Betrothed couples: Dream without fear love without limits – image wendel moretti


And, it’s mind boggling and a heartbreaking time.

Creating a smaller wedding or sit-down reception during the Covid-19 scare is a numbers game.

So, a downsized wedding guest list is the answer.

Look don’t feel anxious about the limited guests at the wedding.

It’s not your fault! So, get to grips and be real about your wedding catering.


In reality loving couples like you might like your wedding guest list to consist of loved ones, friends and your favorite colleagues.

However, with the coronavirus restrictions, your limited funds and location size it’s not possible.

Just face facts by putting timelines in place, a headcount and seating arrangement your covid-secure venue can be safe plus serene.

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Wedding guest list TIP: Keep a notepad and pen handy at all times. Jot down A-list and B-list guests names as they come to mind.

photo Fernanda Latronico from Pexels


Have you heard of wedding hierarchy?

Well, the saying goes, invitees who were late to be added to your wedding guest list in the first place, should be the first to go.

And I’m not talking about the A and B list: parents, close relatives and special friends.

But C and D list of people: colleagues, long distance relatives and acquaintances.

Writing out your guest list helps you decide who is important.


Secondly to last, this might be a touchy subject for everyone – do you invite children to the wedding?

But while children add a certain charm to the day, removing them from your headcount not only helps to cut your numbers.

Another reason not to invite kids is, it gives their parents a night off to really let their hair down.

Sad to say children do not add to your experience of the day.’Source:

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Scrap C-list and D-list wedding guests. This ensures you have more capacity to protect vulnerable family and friends from the virus. Use hand sanitizers and face masks.


Lastly, since Covid-19 up-sizing a wedding is out and downsizing is in.

Therefore, exercise sound judgement and address the touchy issue of NOT inviting a plus-one.

Yes, it’s tricky. But, don’t feel bad about it if the guests aren’t dating, betrothed or married, just arrange your perfect seating plan.

Send out luxury wedding invitations and let them know they are part of a selective group of invitees.




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About Clover Jean: I'm a Londoner based in Amsterdam, the Netherlands. Being a ceremonial wedding - symbolic marriage officiant with a gospel & soul choir is rewarding work. So, my guilty pleasures are fine dining, travel hot spots and on-line retail therapy. What's yours? Get in touch, via Instagram #cloverjeanamsterdam or Facebook. LIKE, SHARE, SPREAD THE LOVE & see you soon!

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