Real Wedding Ideas For Couples Who Don’t Want a Copycat Wedding

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Real weddings are special marriage celebrations where unique couples share personalised vows. Although searching for real wedding ideas for your big day is exciting and fun. How do you avoid planning a copycat wedding?

Imagine, you’ve been to your best friend’s, sisters or brother’s wedding, you loved it. Yet, you don’t want your wedding to look as if you copied theirs. Plus, you’re determined not to create the same feel, atmosphere or wedding colour scheme. Well, you could plan a life partners ceremony, park elopement wedding or city wedding abroad. Be inspired by Poss and Bill’s original celebration of love, held at an intimate venue in NL.

Preparing for the couples life partnership ceremony signified a new chapter in my life as a celebrant. Their alternative celebration close to my heart, proves that love is the greatest gift of all. In fact, the spruced-up ceremony demonstrated the strength of their togetherness.

Not to mention, I was grateful to fulfill their dream by joining them in celebrating a milestone. Yes, I was thrilled to bits to be on board, we created a personalised affirmation of the couple’s commitment to one another. Continue reading about Poss and Bill’s park themed, alternative wedding  – commitment ceremony to find out more…

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epic love story commitment ceremony

Poss and Bill, an inseparable team living in perfect harmony in Australia. Their relationship has spanned a period of more than 10 years. Having planned a relaxed overseas trip, they were keen to put a special stamp on their relationship in the heart of buzzing Amsterdam.

Happy couple: Poss and Bill

Venue: Westerpark, Amsterdam, The Netherlands

Date: 15th September 2018

Bill is British and Poss is Australian. Their hometown is in Sydney. Their desire was to spoil each other during a special celebration of love and commitment ceremony. “It is important to us to hold a private event that reflects our need for one another’s company.” Basically, the formality of a full-on marriage service didn’t appeal to them.


Handpicked exclusively by me, the secluded location was quiet, green and calm. “Is it far away?” asked Bill and Poss.

“No, it’s a short walk,” I replied. Unfortunately, the chosen area was busy with loud party people.

So, we went in search of a new spot. Amazingly, we stumbled upon an oasis set in a water garden paradise. It oozed tranquility, uniqueness and peace. “As soon as we saw it we fell in love.”

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real wedding ideas celebrant leading commited couple up garden path

Celebrant consultation

The email read: “Hi Clover, my partner Bill and I are planning an overseas trip. In mid-September we will visit Amsterdam. We want a short, sweet and simple commitment ceremony for two but we’re not familiar with the city. So we’re entirely in your hands to find an outdoor ceremonial venue and restaurant for our celebratory lunch. We are happy to Skype. Can you help us? Many thanks Poss.”

Planning checklist

Knowing their wishes and preferences made crafting their real commitment ceremony speech effortless. We edited out the word marriage for practical reasons. They opted for another type of commitment that reflected the love they shared for each other. Subsequently, the make-up of the ceremony was morally binding and included personal vows.

Secular ceremony

Set in luscious greenery and sheltered by trees, the secular ceremony began. Poss and bill played music. “We downloaded lots of our favorite songs,” they said excitedly. The melodies added an extra special touch.

I welcomed and greeted them with inspirational words about their relationship. With joyful tears they expressed their vows and said, “We do.” It was the perfect picture of happiness.

real wedding ideas celebrant leading commited couple up garden path

Symbolism and vows

Next, was the second important moment of the ceremony. Poss and Bill finalized their vows by exchanging gifts. As Bill presented a beautiful red, green and white beaded necklace to Poss tears continued to trickle down her cheeks. “I’m sorry Bill, but I forgot to bring my gift for you”. With promises of an I.O.U, their strong bond of friendship, deep admiration and respect for each other was the best gift I have ever seen.

Pronouncement of commitment

The true soul companions radiated love for one another. And honoured to unite them I said, “You may now kiss each other.” I then handed them a symbolic life-term partnership certificate. Thereafter, Poss and Bill stood embraced in a loving kiss in the late summer sun. It was a momentous ending to a real commitment ceremony for two, under my watchful eyes. And a wonderful start to their first steps of a new journey together.

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The suppliers & vendors

Venue – Westerpark, Amsterdam

Restaurant –Piet de Gruyter

Ceremony photographer – Clover Jean Weddings


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About Clover Jean: I'm a Londoner based in Amsterdam, the Netherlands. Being a ceremonial wedding - symbolic marriage officiant with a gospel & soul choir is rewarding work. So, my guilty pleasures are fine dining, travel hot spots and on-line retail therapy. What's yours? Get in touch, via Instagram #cloverjeanamsterdam or Facebook. LIKE, SHARE, SPREAD THE LOVE & see you soon!

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