If you’ve recently become engaged and said, “YES” then you might be suffering from post-engagement blues and scared about the wedding day. With the sudden realization of no-longer being free and a happy singleton, getting married could come as quite a big surprise.
Another thing, once the excitement of the engagement is over you could fall into a deep depression. So, how do you recover and heal from such horrible feelings?
Well, let’s face it nobody wants to be in a loveless relationship. Your big day could be magical and memorable, but you might have cold feet. However, living a solitary life can be far worst than a future married life together.
So, here is some pretty compelling steps to take which could help you along this very difficult road. Let them guide you through the coming days, weeks or months in the run up to your wedding. Keep reading.
Post engagement blues | what to do now
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1. Post engagement blues is akin with depression
First, the initial buzz of your engagement is probably over. And with the knowledge of what your relationship involves, it’s natural to feel the way you do. But, don’t worry, you’ll get back on the right track, soon. With the help of professionals, they ensure you continue to have a loving, trusting, caring relationship and live happily ever after.
2. Banish the scary post-engagement blues
What’s more, the post-engagement blues could make you feel miserable. But, it is a good indication of what is important to you. Your wedding could be the biggest day of your lives. And with that comes an excitement that lingers for months. So, if you experience the blues don’t push the feelings away. Communication is the fuel to heal!
3. Deep emotional feelings are unavoidable
Another thing, you probably had a higher stress level when thinking about planning of your big day. Most brides and grooms to be dream of the perfect wedding and that comes with a few sacrifices. So, enjoy what the future holds. Moreover, help one another plan an incredible event.
4. Advantages and disadvantages of post engagement blues
Nevertheless, if you find it difficult to come to terms with being engaged. Write down 10 reasons why you made the decision to get wed. Additionally, list the advantages and disadvantages of being married. You are sure to discover why you have post engagement blues.
5. Ask yourself why you feel sad
Most importantly, by jotting down your emotions it will help you deal with your pre-nuptial depression. And you can kick it to the curb. Here are more questions to consider, about why you are scared of your wedding day. Or go to wedding forums and find out from other couples their thoughts about engagement blues.
6. Post-engagement blues are on the rise
According to canceledweddings.com, “weddings are a very emotional and costly occasion. Large sums of money are paid out to various vendors in advance deposits. Usually six months prior to the big day, over half the total cost must be paid. Around 270.000 couples each year cancel their wedding”. Read more in their blog.
7. Children feel the blues too
In addition, is this your second or third engagement? Do you have children (step)? They could be feeling a little down as well. This matter may spoil the quality of your future relationship. Don’t bother forcing them to change. Together you need to make a decision to talk with them about it. Read more about parenting.
8. Cope with your high expectations
Lastly, don’t pressure yourself to snap out of your engagement blues. Let it run a natural course. Go on holiday, go to the spa or chat with your family and friends. So, what if you feel tearful, upset or had high ideas about being engaged. Don’t panic or beat yourself up. Just look forward to a brighter horizon and enjoy being true friends (if possible) for life!
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