Officiate Your Wedding Ceremony With These 10 Tips

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In the likelihood, your friend will officiate your wedding ceremony. One thing is for certain, you’ll need a practical guide for the event and a coherent script. Ultimately, you want your wishes to be fulfilled and that is to have a personalized wedding ceremony.

Basically, you desire thoughtful and sincere sentiments at your special occasion. So, it is the right thing to do to assign the task of officiant to a dear friend or family member. That’s an honor and a big job for them. But, on the flip side of this decision you’ll have to advise them how to act at your wedding. And tell them what to do and when to conduct the ceremony.

The chosen individual needs to have a subjective view, be a good narrator, have lovely diction and a profound bond with you.

Look at it this way you’ve said yes. And you’re now officially engaged and feeling happy. Imagine the privileged setting for your own personal officiant at your ceremony. You’ll take your wedding up a notch, as they speak clearly and concisely, in a compelling tone.

Officiate your wedding with someone who sounds like you

Not to mention that, your one-time officiant will captivate and charm the wedding guests. Actually, capture their imagination and attention by speaking in a crisp and forceful voice. What’s more, use lighthearted anecdotes and their introduction will include sharing your special love story.

So, are you inspired to ask your maid of honor, best man or parent to double act as your temporary officiate? Do you require that they aim for perfection at your ceremony?  I’ve shortlisted 10 practical and creative tips to help you decide what best suits you.

Tip 1. Generic weddings cost more than customised wedding ceremonies

Before all else, you need to be acutely aware that your relative or friend can officiate your wedding  and what is even more exciting for less than the registers fees. Therefore, have a modest civil wedding first and a big celebratory ceremony afterwards. But, please understand, they can only guide you through a symbolic or non-religious marriage service. Otherwise, you can have them ordained as a minister (USA only). Many celebrities such as Sir Paul McCartney, Tiesto and Lady Gaga have chosen this path. Read more about it at Universal Life Church Monastery.

Tip 2. Being engaged feels slightly surreal

The next step is your big day and that probably feels quite surreal. Yet, the question is who will conduct the ceremony.  Once you’ve decided on your officiant. You’ll need to create a dialogue within your wedding speech to explain what your relationship means to you. So, build trust and easily convey your wishes for your special day. This increases the prospect that your friend feels humbled and secure in the role as your speaker. Basically, they should fulfill their commitment. Make sure to get together with them to discuss the order of events at the wedding.

Tip 3. Thought provoking wedding toasts 

At the end of the day, the officiant has an indispensable and valuable role to play as emcee. Their function is to unite your guests and get everyone involved. In addition, they can narrate your storybook wedding and announce your arrival and exit of the venue. Pop over to Fab weddings and use their tool to create the perfect ceremony script, program and vows.

Tip 4. Officiate your wedding with a P.A system and microphone 

Secondly, you need your wedding guests to hear everything that is being said. Therefore, the officiant’s voice should be amplified over a P.A system. And preferably a cordless microphone (or headphone) can be used. To make life even easier you can inquire about this at the wedding venue. This will ensure that your vows and speeches are audible.

Tip 5. Well-dressed and well-spoken one-time officiant

Let’s face it, the  officiant’s  responsibility is to connect with you and your wedding guests. Therefore, he or she should look and act the part. The best thing to do is make sure they are dressed to impress. This means they need to acquire an appropriate outfit. As a matter of fact, they need to wear something that brings out their personality. And mirror your wedding day theme and aesthetics. Nevertheless, clothes that fit properly and feel comfortable is necessary. A well-dressed and well-spoken officiant is the key to a faultless event.

Tip 6. Personal celebration of love is a special occasion

Another thing to know is a personal celebration of love is a special celebration. Ultimately, you are joined together as one. And, whatever wedding you are planning, it’s paramount to have the right running commentary. Inevitably, your master of ceremonies will make your big day run smoothly, be perfect and fun. To put it simply a master of ceremonies who officiates your wedding is a creative alternative. Your customised it is far cheaper than a generic wedding ceremony.

Tip 7. Your voice, your choice and your decision

With the above in mind, if you choose a dear friend to officiate your wedding you keep in with your personal wedding wishes. Most importantly it reflects your values, cultural heritage and you create a wonderful offbeat event. Your voice, your choice and your decision are key in all of this.

Tip 8. Be Confident, Dignified and Rehearse

Let me share something with you. As a master of ceremonies and wedding officiant I have lots of rehearsals. And record my voice in order for my public announcements or personal speech to sound smooth and not choppy. However, I make the occasional mistake. But, I’ve noticed if it’s not quite right; the audience enjoys it when I mess up. So, let your MC know that it is okay, to make a blooper. It adds more spice and excitement to your event.

Tip 9. Be Confident, Dignified and Rehearse

Be that as it may, my advice to you and your master of ceremonies is to compose yourself. Embrace their own body language. And improvise and feel confident during the festivity. Your MC’s overall approach will echo the wedding or party event, because they represent you. Here are even more powerful body language tips for being the best master of ceremonies your friend can be.

Tip 10. Your officiant can use script, cue or note cards

To conclude, do you want to know the number 1 tip for a professional presentation? Well, you need to create a script, cue or note cards for your officiant. This will be of great use during your wedding ceremony and ensure not hitches along the way. Moreover, it will make a good impression and they’ll have a more confident speech. Find out how to make and use them effectively at

Getting married for me was the best thing I ever did.  I was suddenly beset with an immense sense of release that we have something more important than our separate lives, and that is the marriage. There’s immense happiness that can come from working towards that. – Nick Cave (Australian musician)

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About Clover: Hi, I'm Clover Jean, an alternative wedding celebrant, singer and entertainer. I love life, laughter and having a good time. I’m a sucker for great relationships. And I adore weddings, too. They’re happy, fun-filled times, which unite your family, children and friends. Find out more about me. Get in touch by e-mail, like and share my Facebook page and sign-up to my 2 yearly newsletters. I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

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