Non-Traditional Weddings – Planning Tips for Colourful Couples

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Planning a non-traditional wedding as a colourful couple? Mixed-race heritage couples like you have big wedding daydreams too. Find out more. Multicultural marriages, interfaith weddings and mixed faith ceremonies combine your culture, history, and traditions together. So, how do you create one beautiful wedding?

Imagine you’re ethnic background is Indonesian-german and you live in Australia. Perhaps your fiancée is Dutch-portuguese and originates from Canada. Although you’re totally different, you’ve mapped out a blessing ceremony with Vedic prayers. And your charming partner is a non-believer, who prefers to read love poems instead.

What are you going to do? Well, you don’t want a segregated wedding. Regardless of the ceremony taking place in a church, town hall or at a venue you want a ritual to incorporate both belief systems. So, make a big statement, shake up things and fuse your dual identities with my help. Here we go…


How to survive the big day!

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Traditional weddings allow colourful couples to blend two different families with ethical principles, moral beliefs, and key values. However, being caught between two worlds, or playing a tug of war to fuse both your cultural traditions could be an issue. But it doesn’t have to be. Jena & Robin proved it! Waldorf Astoria Hotel, Amsterdam  | courtesy of

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1. Wedding venue

To begin with there are plenty of all-inclusive wedding venues that cater for mixed-race couples marriage celebrations. And as you can’t choose the person you fall in love with, you sure can choose the place to get hitched. So, embrace it and celebrate love beyond traditions and the language barrier. Enjoy a ceremony centered around you the happy couple!

2. Wedding readings

In addition the cultural significance of your multicultural wedding is empowered by the powerful speech of Bishop Michael Curry. Get to grips with planning an interracial affair. And read this [non] christian wedding reading for inspiration. Perhaps it mirrors your belief, background and family traditions.


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Mixed faith weddings confirm that opposites attract, similarities bind, and unconditional love can cross borders and the threshold.

3. Speeches for weddings

But how do you set a precedent like Megan Markle? How do you recite a meaningful and emotional wedding speech with confidence? Well, poems and readings warm the coldest hearts, ensure joys of laughter and a weepy tears. So, find the best speech that suits your diverse wedding.

4. Marriage officiant

Modern day marriage ceremony works for diverse couples. Regardless of your colour, creed or religious beliefs a marriage official can integrate your wishes into the ceremony. Performed separately to the legal signing of your civil register at the town hall. You can swap your personal vows, your rings and have the marriage officiant incorporate a special blessing [optional].


planning interracial weddings bride, groom with their children two boys and a girl

Abundance is Love: The marriage ceremony is of the utmost importance for family and kids. Opposites attract but similarities bind.

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5. Practices for weddings

Additionally, love is colour blind and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So, staying true to yourself is of vital importance in planning a blissful and meaningful wedding. By including some traditional rituals or religious elements/practices you personalise your ceremony. Add a splash of diversity to make your nuptials memorable.

6. Wedding rituals

Equally important, whether you are Canadian and want to marry someone who is Chinese or a Hindu who is marrying a British man. Perhaps you are Jewish and would like to marry a Russian partner. Or you could be South African engaged to a Greek partner. Well, you can successfully blend a variety of rituals and traditions into the multi-faith ceremony.

planning mixed-race wedding bride and groom hitched up on chairs grinning

Marriage gives everyone, regardless of race, colour, creed and religion the freedom to marry who they want, where, when and how.

7. Two part wedding celebration

Whether you are Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, agnostic or atheist. You can swap your vows twice. Host a two part wedding. One is tailor-made to your ethnic background and the other to your partners cultural heritage. This way no-one is offended. Your family’s’ ceremonial wishes, marriage beliefs and traditions are kept in tact.

8. Non-traditional wedding

And there’s more exciting times ahead. Transform the definition of multiracial marriage. So, break with old traditions and create a new one for contemporary times. Highlight your different backgrounds and originality with music. Moreover, push boundaries and get wedding inspiration from others like you and celebrate love beyond borders with a song! In fact, religious or non-religious songs adds the wow factor.

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Albeit interracial couples are thrilled to plan a culturally rich marriage celebration.

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9. Wedding gift registry

What does a diverse wedding have in common with a traditional white wedding? You guessed it, a wedding gift registry. The giving and receiving of wedding gifts, is part and parcel of the marriage celebrations. And the offering of a gift is a symbolic gesture to mark the importance of your union. So, get to work on your wedding gift registry today.

10. Formal or informal

Lastly, if you want to create something uniquely distinctive to forge everlasting memories think about your wedding funds. The wedding theme could be high-end, casual with luxurious details found throughout. Choose your countries traditional wedding colours such as jewel tones, like sapphire, gold, and ruby.

Non-traditional wedding related links

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The ceremony used to be the final part of the planning process, but THINGS ARE CHANGING! source: TheCelebrantAcadamy. image Missy Feigum


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About Clover Jean: I'm a Londoner based in Amsterdam, the Netherlands. Being a ceremonial wedding - symbolic marriage officiant with a gospel & soul choir is rewarding work. So, my guilty pleasures are fine dining, travel hot spots and on-line retail therapy. What's yours? Get in touch, via Instagram #cloverjeanamsterdam or Facebook. LIKE, SHARE, SPREAD THE LOVE & see you soon!

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