In the footsteps of Meghan Markle we ladies are closing the gap and delivering a confident wedding speech with authority and humor. And with our ‘showwomanship’ being put to the test, we may feel overwhelmed about sharing our experiences. But, how do you overcome feeling anxious?
Actually a tongue tied Duchess of Sussex speaking in public can get stressed out, too. And it can even happen to a naturally gifted speaker, such as Queen Elizabeth. So, it shouldn’t stop you being bold and delivering a poignant and memorable speech with confidence and authority.
Another thing, your crystal clear announcement, if done correctly, will melt the coldest heart on the wedding day. Therefore, feeling nervous and in a panic about it wont help! Discover how to speak like a royal with ease. And let your worries be a thing of the past. Master your wedding speech nerves. More importantly, use these creative 12 ways to get in on the act. And stay in ultimate control just like Meghan Markle. Let’s do this together…
Confident wedding speech tips & tricks
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1. Write your wedding speech from the heart
Firstly, whether you’re the princess or mother of the bride keep cool. The basis ground rule before you put pen to paper is to remember, your speech is important. It’s a significant element of the happy occasion, the wedding day. Your contribution as the mother, bride or best friend, will be part of their new memories. To avoid the crowd becoming bored, restless or nodding off, deliver a dynamic speech.
2. Captivating and full of humor
Secondly, if it is your first time to speak on behalf of a happy couple. Well, according to Wikipedia.org our attention span is less than eight seconds. Therefore, it’s essential to make your announcement memorable, filled with love and captivating. And deliver a story full of fun facts, tales, humor and witty irony. Read more tips from Heidi Ellert-McDermott, about the speech etiquette for weddings.
3. Go with the flow with a short, sharp and sweet speech
In essence, you may feel the nerves creeping up. Or feel exposed and vulnerable during your stint as the ambassadress for the wedding couple. So the best thing to do is keep your talk between 3 – 8 minutes. Why? See point 2, again. And don’t forget the rule of six: short, sharp, sweet, fun, to the point and sentimental. Furthermore, as the lady speaker you must raise a toast to the happy newlyweds.
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4. Mention the bride’s and groom’s uniqueness
When were you saddled with the speech? Mention the date and the first time and how long you know the bride/groom. Take it in your stride and talk about their uniqueness. And don’t forget to say why they complement one another and what they mean to you. Let your speech go with the flow. Read on for great advice about an in-depth speech at a wedding and how to give a powerful mother of the bride, bride or bridesmaid’s toast.
5. Prepare and practice your speech before the wedding
Look at it this way, as a woman you don’t have to hold back during your talk or be a nail biting wreck. At the wedding reception, you can take a stand and feel empowered to maximize the impact of your speech. How? All you’ll need is a:
- Full length mirror
- Voice recorder (IPhone or any other mobile device)
- IPad or home computer
- Or a notepad, pen and paper will suffice.
6. Posture, performance and presence
Once, you’ve jotted down all the things you want to share and say about your experience as a loving couple. Use the above items, attributes and your feminine charm to help you create a visually and verbally pleasing message of affection. The mirror reflects your posture, performance and presence while reciting your wedding reading.
7. Rehearse your wedding speech at home
Next edit the tales you want to tell. Delve into your written speech, heart and be totally honest. If you’re the mum, maid of honour or bridesmaid to be have you covered all the good stuff? Does it sound OK? What do you want to cross out? When you’ve decided what to keep, just remember preparation is the key. Rehearse, rehearse and rehearse some more at home. Pop over to www.speechy.com for more tips and tricks, this wedding speech writing services actively target female wedding speakers.
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8. Move over grooms because the cat’s got your tongue
Additionally, many of us girls love to talk and can natter till the cows come home. So, let’s redress the balance and show those men a thing or too. Write down the words you want to say. Practice saying it out loud and slowly, preferably in front of a mirror. Enjoy watching yourself and listening to your voice. Repeat as many times as you need. Be upfront about your presentation technique. If you find yourself laughing, crying or feeling emotional then you’re on the right track.
9. Negative emotions will not help you
In addition, any negative emotion is an indication that you need to perfect your womanly approach. Don’t be shy, you can effectively convey your warm hearted speech effortlessly. Otherwise, get a TV scriptwriter to write for you. This will relax you and give you confidence to deliver your speech without fumbling. Go to the worlds largest collection of speech templates at www.weddingspeechbuilder.com.
10. Scan your audience & project your voice
Are you the mother of the bride, a bridesmaid or guest of honor? Seated at the top table, at the front or near by, you’ll already have the full attention of the bride, groom and guests. Everyone will be aware of your charisma, presence and look forward to your toast. Take a deep breath and scan the mood of your audience. Acknowledge the newlyweds. Focus on someone in the room you feel comfortable, at ease and safe with. Keep smiling.
11. Get a copy of the wedding guest list and the seating arrangements.
Additionally, as the lady speaker your message can contain key moments, juicy tidbits and special anecdotes about yours and the wedding couple’s relationship. So, spend time researching to gather extra intriguing and never before revealed information about the newlyweds. Get a copy of the wedding guest list and the seating arrangements.
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12. Alternative wedding speeches for women with balls
Last but not least! Try to make your heartfelt speech, poignant toast or humorously witty speech sound united. Use soundbites, one-liners or poems to fill in the blanks. Moreover, pop over to the maid of honor and brides to be to help you nail your speech [or to come pretty close].
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